It’s 5 solutions to 5 questions. Right here we go…
1. Can I ask coworkers to cease introducing me as my dad’s child?
To place it bluntly, I’m a nepotism child. I work as a paralegal at a reasonably small legal protection legislation agency (4 attorneys, one in every of whom is my dad, an workplace supervisor/paralegal, and me). I received my begin working as a authorized assistant for my dad, then one of many different attorneys noticed my work and favored it and employed me to work part-time as his assistant. When the receptionist/authorized assistant give up, I began working full-time for the agency basically. I’m good at what I do, however I additionally acknowledge that I wouldn’t have the job or the information with out my dad.
As a result of the agency is so small, everyone seems to be conscious that my dad is my dad, however everybody can also be pretty good at holding our work and residential lives separate. My dad can also be pretty well-known amongst legal protection attorneys in my state.
My drawback is that this: once I’m at court docket with one of many different attorneys they usually begin speaking to a different legal protection legal professional, I’m typically launched as my dad’s child. I perceive the place the attorneys are coming from, as connections are pretty necessary and my dad is fairly properly favored. I perceive that my job is one thing I wouldn’t have gotten with out my dad, however I’d additionally wish to be acknowledged for my very own accomplishments. Is there a manner I might politely request that I be launched in a different way, or is that this one thing that I ought to simply settle for as a part of the bundle?
You could possibly say one thing like, “Would you thoughts introducing me as X, relatively than as Jim’s child? I wish to ensure folks know me professionally firstly.”
Most individuals will get that. That mentioned, that there’ll in all probability all the time be a bit of of this, simply because folks like your dad and are in all probability delighted to introduce his offspring (and aren’t enthusiastic about the way it would possibly undermine you professionally). There’s a danger that if you happen to attempt to stamp it out fully or in an excessively heavy-handed manner, it might come throughout as if you happen to’re making an attempt to cover the connection (which might then make you look insecure about it, and that itself might undermine you) … however a easy one-time request is affordable and shouldn’t come throughout that manner.
2. New coworker is obsessive about my LinkedIn profile
Just a few months in the past, a candidate my division wished to rent would examine my LinkedIn profile each week. I’d get a profile view ding each week main as much as her interview and proper earlier than she signed the supply letter. This habits is completely anticipated. That’s the purpose of LinkedIn.
We ultimately employed this particular person. And the month earlier than she began, after she signed the supply letter, she’d examine my profile each week — once more. Generally twice every week. So now, we’re speaking 2-3 months of this girl pinging my profile weekly. That struck me as odd so I blocked her. A few times after you’ve signed the supply letter, cool. However repeatedly afterwards struck me as odd.
On her first week, she requested for a 1:1. The primary query requested after the same old “how are yous?” was an aggressive, “I can not see your background. I don’t know something about you. However you understand every part about me — you noticed my resume when our boss employed me. So it’s solely honest I do know your background.” Her tone modified. Her face modified. I used to be EXTREMELY uncomfortable. It’s simply LinkedIn, I don’t get it. And he or she does know my background. She checked it 8+ instances this quarter. So, I shortly interjected that she might ask me about my background relatively than viewing my resume. I then gave her my elevator pitch. She appeared effective with the response.
Nevertheless, the following week I seen my boss and different teammates have been impulsively checking my profile. Odd, as a result of I’ve labored with them for a couple of yr already and I’m not energetic on the platform. I simply use it to use for roles. So I’m not likely posting something mind-blowing.
Do I must show to new coworkers that I belong at my present job by displaying my background? Is it customary for brand spanking new hires to interview current teammates after they’ve accepted and began work?
I really feel as if she wished to understand how I received my job. I completely perceive wanting up folks’s backgrounds to grasp their experience. However her antics earlier than she began made me uncomfortable. Now that she’s employed, I simply don’t get it. This new girl doesn’t report back to me. We’re now coworkers. Overlook about our backgrounds and let’s simply work collectively.
No, that is extremely bizarre. It’s not odd to take a look at the skilled backgrounds of your new coworkers (that means a easy LinkedIn search, not in-depth digging), nevertheless it’s a bit of bizarre to go to their profiles time and again, and it’s past bizarre to confront them about why they blocked you after they received uncomfortable together with your obsessive checking. And in case your boss and different teammates out of the blue your profile signifies that your new coworker was complaining to them concerning the state of affairs (which I think it does), her complaining is bizarre too.
In different phrases, that is all about your new coworker being a bit bananapants, and never about any type of new rent customized you weren’t conscious of.
3. Did I mess up by not sending a thank-you observe for my workplace’s marriage ceremony reward?
I received married a couple of years in the past. I’d began a brand new job in a small workplace of lower than 20 folks previous to my marriage ceremony, and I solely invited one coworker who, because of a carpooling association, I used to be the closest with. This was okay, I feel, since I feel everybody knew we’d develop into quick associates exterior of labor. The workplace pitched in to get me a marriage reward that I assume was about $100 and introduced it to me in a gathering (a part of me hopes there was a budgetary merchandise for this, because of feeling responsible that individuals I barely knew spent cash on me). I thanked them profusely and was very grateful. Nevertheless, the extra I give it some thought, the extra I’m wondering if I dedicated some type of skilled snafu by not getting ready some form of thank-you card. What was the etiquette for this?
The normal etiquette is that if you happen to thank somebody in particular person (like when the reward is introduced, or once you subsequent see them quickly after), you don’t must additionally ship a thank-you card. Etiquette requires that you simply thank them, however not that you simply do it in writing.
That mentioned, thank-you playing cards are all the time a pleasant gesture, even once you’ve already met the etiquette obligations one other manner. (And naturally, not everybody is aware of the normal etiquette and a few folks could count on a written observe anyway.) You didn’t commit a fake pas, however when doubtful, a written thank-you will not often go flawed.
4. Paying primarily based on the place workers stay
Is it authorized to pay distant emoloyees who work the identical job in a different way primarily based fully upon the state they stay in? For instance, paying an worker $10,000-15,000 extra as a result of the state requires a minimal wage for that sort of job, however not paying the identical to an worker in a state with no wage protections. These workers would have the very same roles/title. Does that run into any equal pay legal guidelines?
It’s authorized, and it’s fairly widespread! Someday the totally different pay is because of state legal guidelines, such as you cited, nevertheless it’s much more widespread for it to be primarily based on the totally different prices of dwelling by space and/or and totally different market charges for the work in numerous areas.
5. How can my boss assist me discover a new job?
In brief, the job I used to be employed for not exists (no one’s fault, no resentment), however I’m nonetheless helpful as a result of we’re operating fairly lean. Nevertheless, in the present day it turned clear from one more “how can we make this work?” dialog with my supervisor of seven months that I want to go away for my very own achievement/progress. I’m thus within the generally-avoided state of affairs of my supervisor understanding that I’m searching for a brand new job. She is a good particular person and 90% of the explanation I haven’t left but, and has provided her assist in discovering a brand new job. How can I take advantage of this beneficiant supply?
Does she have contacts at different firms who she will be able to refer you to? Different leads she will be able to ship your manner? If nothing else, she will be able to hopefully be a glowing reference when that’s wanted, but when she will be able to join you with people who find themselves hiring, that’s even higher.